Often, when our lives shift or hit a major turning point, we suddenly find ourselves in a new role as the messenger. It is during these life experiences that we are forced to dig deeper. Our reality, as we know it, changes and we see the world differently. We realize that sometimes our biggest fears can materialize and that, when they do, we can survive. Upon learning the tools of how to get back on track, we often become so inspired by what we’ve learned that we feel a responsibility to deliver our message to others that are going through the same life experience. This concept continues to fascinate me and was on my mind when I came across the book, The Millionaire Messenger.
Brendon Burchard, author of The Millionaire Messenger, tells us the story of a near-fatal car accident that changed his life. This major turning point led Brendon to ask himself three questions: “Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?“ After pondering these three questions, he stumbled upon a messenger on television (Tony Robbins) whose message was simple: You have unlimited personal power to live the life you desire and make a difference, and I can help you. Brendon felt empowered to read and listen to the messages of other self-help and business world gurus including David Bach, John Maxwell and Seth Godin. He began wondering — if they could deliver such important messages, why couldn’t he? He devoured all the knowledge he could about becoming an expert.
Brendon discovered that members of the expert community focus their efforts in two ways: first, relating with their audience to gain their trust and understand their needs and ambitions. Then, creating useful information, content and products that add value to their audience and teach them how to live a better life or grow their businesses.
During Brendon’s inspiring two-year journey, he reached millions of people with his message and earned over $4.6 million teaching others how to improve their lives and share their own message. I was so inspired by this book and its message that I read it twice. The information is so accessible and Brendon inspires you to believe that anything is possible. It’s all about knowing your message and putting it into play. It’s about serving others and creating purpose.
I recently read another book that delivers an equally powerful message but from more of a spiritual perspective. It’s called, May The Angels Be With You: Access Your Spirit Guides and Create The Life You Want by celebrated psychic, Gary Quinn. Similar to Brendon, Gary also uses his life story to move in this new life direction. Gary recounts the incredible story of how he first discovered his own angelic messenger in the Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris at a crucial turning point in his life. He tells the heartbreaking and ultimately inspiring story of how he struggled with his psychic gifts as a child and then, reconnected with them as an adult.
Gary shows us how to believe in our own possibility by introducing us to the idea that we are each surrounded by a number of angels. Everything we need is around us. We just need to learn how to draw from it.
When I reflect back now on my own turning point, I understand that the universe giving me a nudge was the best thing that could have happened to me. It pointed me in a more authentic direction. It led me to write my book, Story Line: Finding Gold In Your Life Story, which also came from two pivotal life events in my story. It also led to creating a six-figure business from scratch that is all about serving others and helping them to attain their dreams. It provided me with a platform to deliver my teachings about “developing from within” and “finding gold in your life story.”
Our major turning points in life have a purpose behind them. It is our job to seek out the message and accept our role as the messenger. In doing so, we may find that we can turn tragedy into triumph and find our life’s calling in the process.
A word that comes to mind in the New Year is purpose. Many people no longer make New Year’s resolutions because they know that resolutions often fall by the wayside. The week between Christmas and New Year’s leaves many of us feeling in limbo. We think about the promises we made at the beginning of the year and sometimes realize we fell short of our expectations. However, it is important to leave our unfulfilled prospects of the past in the past and see the New Year as an opportunity to create or enhance your purpose.
On the topic of purpose, Daniel L. Pink writes in his book Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, “The most deeply motivated people – not to mention those who are most productive and satisfied – hitch their desires to a cause larger than themselves.” Daniel goes on to write, “From the moment that human beings first stared into the sky, contemplated their place in the universe, and tried to create something that bettered the world and outlasted their lives, we have been purpose seekers. ‘Purpose provides activation energy for living,’ psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi told me in an interview, ‘I think that evolution has had a hand in selecting people who had a sense of doing something beyond themselves.”
Conceptually, this can be a bit overwhelming to think about. How do we create purpose that goes beyond ourselves? Can we add more meaning to our lives? In the family unit, there is no question as to how you do this. You provide love, security, faith, trust and possibility for the next generation. Your footprints continue on with the lessons that you imparted. Your voice will forever be heard in the hearts of your children
In story, we create purpose by attempting to clearly express the meaning behind our words. In the book Stealing Fire From The Gods, author, James Bonnett writes, “The purpose of story, then, is to guide us to our full potential and the nature of story is to conceal that purpose in an enticing sugar coat that lures us into the experience.”
When it comes to work, adding purpose is a more complex matter. If we learn to look within ourselves versus seeking our rewards externally, we may discover our true purpose lives there. In his book Drive, Daniel L. Pink refers to this as Type I behavior. Daniel writes, “Type I is fueled more by intrinsic desires than extrinsic ones. It concerns itself less with the external rewards to which an activity leads and more with the inherent satisfaction of the activity itself.” Pink goes on to write, “Ultimately, Type I behavior depends on three nutrients; autonomy, mastery and purpose. Type I behavior is self-directed. It is devoted to becoming better and better at something that matters. And it connects that quest for excellence to a larger purpose.”
I love the terms he chose: autonomy, mastery and purpose. These are great motivators to start our year with. This grants us the ability to create the destiny of our choosing. If we look within ourselves and think about how we can affect the greater good and create more purpose in our lives, we can feel the rebirth of conscious endeavor. If we reflect on these words and focus on their meaning, the potential of finding purpose in our lives can be limitless.